This Post was originally published on Medium, December 27, 2017
“As if you were on fire from within. The moon lives in the lining of your skin.”
― Pablo Neruda
Willpower is totally useless.
As a recovering alcoholic, I can tell you that you cannot make changes, kick habits or addictions with just your will.
Eventually, you falter. Trip. Stumble. Fall.
You cannot sustain the effort using merely will. If willpower is the only weapon in your arsenal, eventually you crumble and succumb to the thing you are trying to avoid.
So willpower is not the answer.
I could try and recite the science. The psychology of change. Of addiction. Substance abuse. Habit formation and deconstruction. But this is not a white paper nor is it a submission to a referred publication. I am not a Psychologist.
There are other forums for that and others better qualified to address those topics in that manner.
And I do acknowledge that as human beings we suffer from and tend towards a propensity to over simplify the complex. But my experience shows that there is a great power, a tool we can use to replace ineffective willpower.
I consider it a secret sauce, an elixir that can help you with change, more than anything else I have come across throughout my life.
Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.
– Oprah Winfrey
That magic weapon is PASSION.
The times in my life I have been able to develop passion about something I wanted, anything I wanted to accomplish, those are the times I got results.
That’s when real lasting change occurred. Where I was able to consistently win against the demons I wanted to eliminate. The dragons I chose to slay.
Can you develop passion? I am not sure. I don’t know if you develop it, or it envelops you.
I believe the key is, wherever or whenever you determine there is a need for change, find something you can get passionate about.
Then let that passion be the magic potion you take to bring about the change you want. The change you need.
There is no passion to be found playing small — in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.