As a Life Coach, Mentor, and as a leader of large organizations, I consistently encounter many of my fellow human beings in distress due to various events in their lives. Let’s face it, life is constantly throwing jabs and punches at us. We are dodging, ducking, weaving, more often than we would like. At times, life lands some fairly heavy blows, and inflicts wounds and pain on us. We are always looking for ways to ease that pain, to heal those wounds, to fill the emptiness that we feel at times. We are constantly searching for those things that fulfill us, and that heal those wounds that life constantly inflicts on us. Often, the search is for that silver bullet, that antidote, the dose of magic elixir that will make life recede into the shadows, put out the fire in our souls, and take away our pain.
As a result, I see many people turning to substances and things like alcohol, drugs, shopping, gambling, online activities and other stimuli to take away the pain and heal the wounds. The problem is, none of those things heal the wounds, and any pain relief is very temporary. And, as we have become all too familiar with, those supposed “solutions” bring along lots of baggage full of damaging addictions and side effects.
One thing I have found that consistently leads to fulfillment, healing, and relieving of pain, is to seek out people who need help, and to work collaboratively to help them through their dilemmas. I am convinced that we were put on this earth and designed to help our fellow human beings, and that a whole host of good things come down on us and others, when we do this. Here are 10 reasons why helping someone helps us in turn:
- Shifting our attention to helping someone else, takes the focus off of us and our own problems
- Helping others is a positive activity. We focus on positive things and not the negativity associated with our own issues
- The connection we develop with others when we help them, is a satisfying feeling that washes over us and soothes our wounded souls
- The act of doing good, just plain feels good. It heals, it takes away pain, it makes us happy. Beneficial chemicals are released in the brain when you do good
- Helping others is great for your self esteem. It gives your psyche a tremendous boost and makes you feel powerful
- The connections we make with others when we help them, builds friendships and a lasting bond that continues to have a positive effect on us for a long time
- An inner peace washes over us when we selflessly give our time and assistance
- We make the world a better place one kind act at a time
- We set an example that others can follow
- Helping others is a great way to learn about you and who you really are, and in turn, to help yourself
So, we really do hold the key to self-healing, easing of pain, and fulfillment. It is there for us to take advantage of, any time we need to, any time we want. And there is no shortage of tattered and hurting souls to help either. So, get out and help someone today, and enjoy the positive effects that it will bring.
Do you have your own stories about how helping others has helped you? I’d love to hear them!