CHANGE – Continued


I made a startling find this weekend. As I was reflecting back over the last 20 years of my life, and listing events that had transpired, I realized that going back in time, there were things that I did, or that happened to me, that were actually harbingers (predictors) of what would eventually happen to me 10 to 15 years later. In other words, the signs were there, I just didn’t see them (because I didn’t look hard enough).

The issue was, when certain events happened or when I did certain things, the impact was not that great because I was not yet in a position of great influence or responsibility to have it be a great impact. Not that it wasn’t negative, it just wasn’t negative enough to have such a great impact that I took notice and decided, “well, I had better fix this so that it doesn’t happen again”. Later on in my career, as I had progressed in position and title, with more responsibility and accountability, the same type of behavior caused disastrous consequence, catastrophic outcomes. Why? because I was now in a position where the same behavior was drastically more impacting, to me, to the company, to my family, to others. What a revelation?

The morals of the story?

  1. Closely examine and inspect yourself, your behavior, the things you think, the things you say, the actions you take.
  2. Look for common threads, look for meaning, and look for the opportunities to change that behavior.
  3. Follow the thread back to your thoughts before the words, before the action, and put a pause in between the thought and the words, and the action.
  4. Use the A.W.A.R.E. model.


This is how I change. How do you change?


About Enrique Fiallo

I am a Life Coach, Author, and Blogger. I inspire people to succeed in a complicated world, and write about leadership, self improvement and personal development...
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2 Responses to CHANGE – Continued

  1. Isn’t it funny how we mature over time. As a young man I thought I knew everything. As a more mature adult I am learning that being humble is a key benefit to my success now. Nobody likes a know-it-all.

    Even if you know-it-all never let others know you do. When you allow them to discover what you know without telling them, that is a key moment of empowerment and leadership.

    I always rely on John Maxwell’s book Failiing Forward to be my guide. I do fail forward every day. I also try to smile more every day.

    Thanks for your honesty in this post.

    • Henry Fiallo says:

      As a teenager, I thought my father was really naive and not so smart. By the time I turned 30, I marveled at how much he had learned in such a short period of time! 🙂
      I suppose the lesson is, maturity takes time! I have not had a chance to read Failing Forward. I’ll have to look it up. Thanks very much for your observations and comments.

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