I made a startling find this weekend. As I was reflecting back over the last 20 years of my life, and listing events that had transpired, I realized that going back in time, there were things that I did, or that happened to me, that were actually harbingers (predictors) of what would eventually happen to me 10 to 15 years later. In other words, the signs were there, I just didn’t see them (because I didn’t look hard enough).
The issue was, when certain events happened or when I did certain things, the impact was not that great because I was not yet in a position of great influence or responsibility to have it be a great impact. Not that it wasn’t negative, it just wasn’t negative enough to have such a great impact that I took notice and decided, “well, I had better fix this so that it doesn’t happen again”. Later on in my career, as I had progressed in position and title, with more responsibility and accountability, the same type of behavior caused disastrous consequence, catastrophic outcomes. Why? because I was now in a position where the same behavior was drastically more impacting, to me, to the company, to my family, to others. What a revelation?
The morals of the story?
- Closely examine and inspect yourself, your behavior, the things you think, the things you say, the actions you take.
- Look for common threads, look for meaning, and look for the opportunities to change that behavior.
- Follow the thread back to your thoughts before the words, before the action, and put a pause in between the thought and the words, and the action.
- Use the A.W.A.R.E. model.