One of the things I discovered that was keeping me from achieving, was a significant amount of baggage I was carrying around. It seems we all have baggage, some more than others. In my particular case, this baggage, or to put it another way, blemishes and flaws, had always kept me stagnant and focused on the wrong things. In essence, these flaws distorted the lens via which I looked at the world. So, how could I possibly correctly interpret and make good decisions about what crossed my path, when the distortion never really let me see it for what it was, and what it could be for me? So, I suspected I would have to change a lot of things, in order to make the kind of progress I wanted to make. How did I know this? Well, I got to it in a roundabout kind of way. My thought process went sort of like this:
- I want X, Y, and Z out of life
- I am not getting X, Y, and Z out of life the way I am currently going about it
- I keep doing certain things, in certain ways, expecting X, Y, and Z
- But I am not getting X,Y, and Z
- Yet I keep doing the same things in the same way
- Something is wrong
- Thoughts lead to Decisions
- Decisions lead to Actions (or Inaction)
- Actions turn into Habits
- Habits make up your Character
- and Character leads to your Destiny
One of the first steps I had to take, and one of the hardest I might add, was to self diagnose who I really was, and how I really was. Talk about a difficult exercise. But this self-diagnosis is absolutely necessary. It is necessary, because without an awareness of where you are, and who you are, you can’t see your own flaws, and if you cannot see your own flaws, you cannot acknowledge that you need to change and can’t develop the willingness to change.
The second thing, was a model that I developed during an almost three-year period where I had a lot of free time on my hands to think and contemplate (more on that in future posts). This model helped me to deal with this whole issue of change.
I call it A.W.A.R.E.
Until next time…