Clean House – A.W.A.R.E.


One of the things I discovered that was keeping me from achieving, was a significant amount of baggage I was carrying around. It seems we all have baggage, some more than others. In my particular case, this baggage, or to put it another way, blemishes and flaws, had always kept me stagnant and focused on the wrong things. In essence, these flaws distorted the lens via which I looked at the world. So, how could I possibly correctly interpret and make good decisions about what crossed my path, when the distortion never really let me see it for what it was, and what it could be for me? So, I suspected I would have to change a lot of things, in order to make the kind of progress I wanted to make. How did I know this? Well, I got to it in a roundabout kind of way. My thought process went sort of like this:

  1. I want X, Y, and Z out of life
  2. I am not getting X, Y, and Z out of life the way I am currently going about it
  3. I keep doing certain things, in certain ways, expecting X, Y, and Z
  4. But I am not getting X,Y, and Z
  5. Yet I keep doing the same things in the same way
  6. Something is wrong
So I read somewhere, that doing the same things, in the same way, and expecting different results, was the definition of insanity (it seems this has become a favorite quote, and it is attributable to Einstein, but it wasn’t him – Google it if you don’t believe me). So, by that definition, I must be insane. And as I thought about the need to do different things, in different ways, in other words, to change me, I came across two pretty rock solid ideas.
The first was that what I wanted was a different destiny than the one my current path was leading me to. And that destiny, was based on the following formula: 
  
  • Thoughts lead to Decisions
  • Decisions lead to Actions (or Inaction)
  • Actions turn into Habits
  • Habits make up your Character
  • and Character leads to your Destiny
Hmmm. So I guess I need to focus on my thoughts, no?

One of the first steps I had to take, and one of the hardest I might add, was to self diagnose who I really was, and how I really was. Talk about a difficult exercise. But this self-diagnosis is absolutely necessary. It is necessary, because without an awareness of where you are, and who you are, you can’t see your own flaws, and if you cannot see your own flaws, you cannot acknowledge that you need to change and can’t develop the willingness to change.

The second thing, was a model that I developed during an almost three-year period where I had a lot of free time on my hands to think and contemplate (more on that in future posts). This model helped me to deal with this whole issue of change.

I call it A.W.A.R.E.

Until next time…

-epf

About Enrique Fiallo

I am a Life Coach, Author, and Blogger. I inspire people to succeed in a complicated world, and write about leadership, self improvement and personal development...
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4 Responses to Clean House – A.W.A.R.E.

  1. carolyn says:

    The first thought that came to my mind was “High five, Henry”.

  2. I enjoyed your guest post on Michael Hyatt today – and was glad that it lead me here to this post as well. We are all in the process of becoming – but few people take the time to think through who they want to become, and how to become that person. It all starts with controlling your thoughts.

    • Thanks so much for your comments! I spent so many years not realizing that I was becoming, in the end, someone that I didn’t really like all that much. Jim Rohn said, “Beware of what you become, in pursuit of what you want”. I have not heard much better advice than that. Thanks again!.

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